7 June 2006
The absent mother
Every year Loosh and Boodi would participate in their school plays, and for the reason of our natural bind I, my mother and sometimes my father if he’s in town and not busy would go to watch them in that important event of their life.
For three years now I would see those three maids with two kids and a Video and a digital Camera. They would record the play and take photos of the kid with his siblings and friends.
This year it was the same and for the reason of my already bad mood I asked the maid with the video camera, “Where are his parents?” “At work” she replied “You come every year don’t you?” I asked “Yes and also his siblings” the maid replied.
That is very sad; don’t tell me that she is a working mother and that she can’t leave work for the sake of her kid’s plays. I don’t blame the father if he skipped because the father is the one responsible for providing money to his family (I know that many will disagree with me in this point but this is what I believe in). But you the mother the one who carried this child in you for nine months; how in god could you skip such an event. They will never forget that for you when seeing other kids embraced by their families, telling them how great they were, and taking photos of them; and this poor kid standing there waiting for his maid to pay him the attention that you should have paid.
I felt so sorry for this kid.
June 7th, 2006 at 3:30 pm
I see maids coming with the drivers picking up kids from school & though I know its bad, but i got used to see this. But skipping the kidd’s school play, now thats too much.
I agree that both parents should attend (or at least try) to spare on day of the year where they’d better spend it with their kids at school.
I think its also stupid to have a school’s day in the morning rather than the eavening so that all parents would find it easier to attend.
“the father is the one responsible for providing money to his family”
Yes, i’m one of those ppl who don’t agree with you on this bit
In the past where life was easier & things (In general) were cheaper than what it is today, this would be ok. However, if a normal man (i.e. who relies on his job as a source of income) or hasn’t got any extraordinary wealth from his family, wanted to support his wife & kids on his own…. I don’t think so. The way I see it (in my humble opinion), both parents have to chip in & help each other, and of course both should participate in raising their children.
I got a bit off topic here didn’t I
June 7th, 2006 at 3:52 pm
Bo Ghazi: First of all; nice to see your comment
I thought if you read this you would not agree
Both parents should participate in raising their children and both should participate in providing money to the family; Good talk but as I see specially with my brother’s friends and school mates; which is private school that costs a big amount of money each kid has his own maid, wearing Burbery, Kenzo, Dior.
3alaihum eb alf 3afya; who has money has the right to wear what ever they want, and my brothers are no less then those in their clothing. Yet a family that can afford such could stay with out one’s job.
People in this country are not working to afford life basics they are working to live in luxury; kids in the other hand has no one to take care of them.
In my every day life I see kids with maids and drivers, in shopping malls, Emergency rooms, school. And you know what one of my relatives makes the maid share her bedroom with her three years old kid to not wake her up because she needs to sleep to get up fresh for work.
A mother is something different; something can’t be replaced; a father plays a good role in a kid’s life yet not like the mother’s role. Her existence is very important.
What I want to say is; a mother’s main job is to be a mother. If she can’t afford a private school, expensive clothes, many maids and cars… so what? nothing better than being with your kids.
June 7th, 2006 at 4:15 pm
well first of all it is really sad that at least once. but there are some jobs that parents really can’t do it no matter how hard they try.
but they can manage.. so this would lead me to one conclusion: they see it not important as much as you do.
June 7th, 2006 at 4:18 pm
but at the end at least one of the parents… honestly seeing the father is as important as the mother.
June 8th, 2006 at 10:25 am
Well , I guess children like them got used to it all…
They never had their parents around , so they don’t actually feel left out , because that’s how they’ve been most of their lives …
You and I feel angry , because it’s not the way we’ve been raised, and just imagining having a life like that would hurt us …
Ma ngool ella , Allah y3een hal yahhal…
June 8th, 2006 at 12:37 pm
I know, Russian mothers are not the best, but what we still don`t like is to leave children with other people. Only with someone inside your family: grandmothers & so on.
But yes, last time we started to move to this level too - parents are so busy, blah blah blah, they have a lot of work, blah blah blah…
Even when I was 16 & finishing school BOTH of my parents came to our school evening. The same I can say about a lot of other parents.
& it was the same in any my age.
Both parents must work. It`s Russia. I can`t imagine how man can do enough money alone here. But at the same time they must have all other problems together - raising children on the 1st place.
I think my point is like Bo Ghazi`s one
June 8th, 2006 at 5:23 pm
What can I say? The new generation I guess… your generation if you’re young
June 8th, 2006 at 8:54 pm
I really hate to see that … and wee see it everyday
I planned that after marriage and having my first kid I will quit my job! it is so sad to miss the important events in my children’s life … the first smile … the first word … the first walk … the first day of school … etc.
June 9th, 2006 at 5:34 pm
Juddy: If both parents have to work, then لا حول و لا قوة but in our country it is not.
Both parents are important but the mother has the biggest responsibility; in Islam if a child younger than 5 years old dies because of negligence a mother should fast for two months; it is her responsibility.
Bogus: Welcome
A need remains a need that should be fulfilled, no matter what other alternatives we have.
T.N.C We are a rich country here… and those I’m talking about are rich families. so your condition could not be compared to this.
Zizo: I’m young as you
Ra-1: Those moments
I guess nothing would be greater in feelings as those moments 