10 March 2007
Family container
Being an adult and still living with my parents isn’t a strange issue in Kuwait; actually it is a must as long as I’m not married.
Being the eldest and single while my younger siblings are married is a bit strange; especially when two of them are married. They already have their own containers that I’m not a part of.
As for me, my parents treat me as a lady in my age should be treated, taking her own decisions and living her own life as if she is totally independent. This keeps only my other brothers in the container with my parents, leading them and some times taking decisions on there behalf.
What I have noticed yesterday is that I’m in no container; my mum calls my sister and they go in another room and talk about something concerning my brother (I guess), a few minutes later my brother and father join. I ‘m out of the room, out of the decision taking and out of all containers.
I don’t feel lonely and that does not make me change my mind about marriage; still I kind of feel left behind, why does marriage give them the precedence in being in that room and not me. It’s not that marriage had matured them any more. I’m still the eldest!!
March 10th, 2007 at 1:07 pm
I dont know how it feels when your younger brother or sister gets married when ur still single, but I know how it feels when u feel left behind or ur married bro or sis doesnt treat u the same anymore. They have more important things than you!
Last example was yestreda when my sister in law told me that I have to go to the farm since she and my brother are going and she said “Ra-1 if are not going, we wont go”! it made me feel special and important but then there it was a different story!
whenever my brother talks to me she jumps in and say something not related to the subject! whenever he asks me a question she answers!!! whenever he says something nice about me, she says what about me??? I cant go out with him withouht her being with us!
TF I think u have noticed that as soon as ur bro or sis gets married, u dont have them anymore :’(
I dont know why am saying this and its not really related to the post :/
March 10th, 2007 at 1:10 pm
awal marra ma astanas kilish in abdely!
March 10th, 2007 at 1:15 pm
Hey sweetie :*
I know what you mean; it is the same here, I used to go to a movie with my sister every week even if it was a useless one; just for going together. Now I can’t go with her without her husband joining us !!
He likes being with us and I enjoy his company but PLEASE IT’S OUR SISTERHOOD TRADITION AND YOU’RE NOT OUR SISTER !!
March 10th, 2007 at 2:07 pm
Zain the monkey is off your back (unless you have other monkies around you
), now you can move on and do other things.
March 10th, 2007 at 2:08 pm
i feel the situation between sis and wife and it makes me boils inside say nothing outside except trying to escape the hell
March 10th, 2007 at 2:26 pm
I cried so much when my older sister got married because we were so close and I knew deep down that things will never be the same. I felt so lonely as though I lost a part of me. I really hated the fact that we couldn’t spend time together anymore but it was a matter of time and then I got used to it.
March 10th, 2007 at 3:16 pm
if the situation bothers u, then why dont u talk to ur parents about it?
ur rite, ur still the eldest, u have a rite to be in that room
March 10th, 2007 at 4:24 pm
Are you sure it’s marriage that caused them to leave you behind? :/ Maybe it was the topic they were discussing?
March 10th, 2007 at 6:07 pm
We really don’t know why you were left out, and we don’t know that it was intentional. We do know that things change when people marry . .. and you can also trust that blood is thick, and ties us together, and after the novelty of marriage wears off (meaning like ten years or so!) you find relationships again that are even deeper and richer than before.
Off topic, and I am so sorry, so trivial . . . I love the graphic. It looks Iranian? It is beautiful!
March 11th, 2007 at 9:39 am
لأنهم يظنون أنهم يسبقوننا بتجربة
و هذا ظالم رغم إيماني بالتجربة .. لأني لا أؤمن بالبشر
و مدى استفادتهم من تجاربهم .. ناهيك عن علمهم و ثقافتهم
و بعض الميزات في شخصية الإنسان
:
روان .. كلنا نتغير تأقلما مع الظروف
بعض الأصدقاء تزوج .. غابوا عن الساحة
لا ألومهم و ألتمس لهم العذر
و الغريب المضحك انهم
يعتقدون ان لا شيء يشغلنا لأننا فقط عزّاب
و الكلمة اللي تسبب لي رفعة ضغط
“تكفى انت اشعندك مشغول .. لا يكون متزوج”
مو متزوج .. بس عندي بيت و أهل التزامات
عندي وظيفة و اشغال
عندي نفسي و حقها علي
يعني معقولة كنتوا مقزرينها طول عمركم فاضين و توكم انشغلتوا؟؟
March 11th, 2007 at 10:53 am
طائر …
ما نلومهم إذا كانوا مشغولين بس إذا تغيروا علينا !
March 11th, 2007 at 11:52 am
كنت أخشى من تفسير الإنشغال و إعادة ترتيب الأولويات
و توزيع الإهتمام بصورة لا تعكس الحقيقة بشكل واضح و عادل
March 11th, 2007 at 12:30 pm
ما فهمت
؟؟؟
March 11th, 2007 at 1:37 pm
Purgy
This is the good thing about it
I should’ve thought of the optimistic side first; will have to practice on that more
1087
I have no problem with my sis in law; it’s my brother in law who is a problem yet a sweet problem
Pearls
She’s my baby sister; I miss being her adviser! And the shoulder to cry on!
eshda3wa
I learned that talking it will change nothing; things have changed and when you’re out of the container there is no way back in!
3baid
I used to be the one that all come to when having problems or taking advice; since getting married, they and my parents think that they are more reliable then me!! ليش إنشالله شنو تغير I’m still the eldest!!
Intlxpatr
I have always wished that we remain the way we were forever; I don’t like the in laws interrupting our life.
Some one once told me that although I’m an adult, I still have the same feelings I had as a kid.
homeless birds
مو كل من تزوج رجال و مو كل من عيلت مره
A saying my mother usually says
Ra-1
He was clear!! What is it that you didn’t get!!
March 11th, 2007 at 2:03 pm
روان
….
بمعنى .. أنا لو مثلا تزوجت .. طبيعي بيكون لزوجتي نصيب كبير
من الإهتمام و الوقت
طيب .. اكيد هالإهتمام و الوقت تم استقطاعهم من نصيب أهلي
و حتى أصدقائي و يمكن حياتي الخاصة و هذا طبيعي لأني بالنهاية انسان واحد .. مو قلندايزر
الحين
أختي شنو راح تقول ؟؟
أمي شنو بتقول ؟أصدقائي ؟ اخواني؟
هل أنا فعلا تغيرت عليهم ولا اللي حصل مجرد شيء طبيعي بحكم الزواج و زيادة مسؤوليات ؟
:
ترو
…
الوالدة صادقة
.. و شوي شوي على البنت 
سوري على القرقة
March 11th, 2007 at 2:37 pm
TF …
was not clear to me!
طائر …
مشكور الحين فهمت
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